As a European folk saying instructs, "Call a man a thief and he will steal." I firmly believe someone, somewhere along the line said or did something to her that she internalized to such a degree that it has become a pathological block to her development. All the people here who contacted her and were disillusioned deciding to take it out on her where in the wrong. Is it her fault their unrealistic expectations were not fufilled? All they succeeded in doing is reinforcing a negative self-image and set back her growth even further. Eventually she is going to end up with the wrong kind of man, and when he hits her she will think it because she deserves it. She needs a gentle STABLE caring person who will accept her for who she is, help her see past her dysmorphia. Eventually she would leave him, but in the long run wouldn't it be better to help a fellow human heal themselves?