30 years of life and not until about one hour ago did I understand certain basic things about how humans interact. It's implicit knowledge. Something
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else seems to have
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around high school. Just before I woke up I dreamed I was trying to impress a girl. I was asking
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>>3140 advice about where to take her from someone who knew her well. This girl was a member of a certain expensive club and it was advised that I pay the large fee to attend as a guest to take her on a date there. This would send one of the several signals I would need to tell her I would fit in with her friends and family. The other signals I would have to send, in the dream I already knew. There was a certain way
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>>3141 to address her friends, a different way to address her family. What I realized last night is how people naturally form unstated groups and use body language to include and exclude each-other. To join a group one must prove he will be valuable to it. A group of rich people needs to know you have money and
>>3143 require proof that you're physically strong, or good at a sport, or capable of playing a musical instrument to a certain level. All require a minimum level of social skill. A group may try to welcome people who don't fit out of kindness or interest in
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>>3144 ideas but it's not likely to work unless the newcumer has this implicit understanding of group dynamics, especially those locally in play. These are things I'm sure all of you have known your whole lives but I just learned today. I doubt I'll be able to further develop my social skills enough to interact properly before I reach old age. It would help if there were a place to learn things like this but it seems like every other human just assumes it as fundamental knowledge. I can find information on societies that build on it but I don't even have the basics yet, not all of them and certainly not enough to smoothly integrate them into instant action when required in a social situation.
Today I realized just how doomed I am to be a permanent pariah.
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this is the most autist thing i have read all day :^)
>>3145 Nah, if you take an intro to psych, sociology, even "behavioral marketing" class in any community college or european equivalent, you'll learn shit like this formalistically
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>>3145 "every other human just assumes it as fundamental knowledge." that's because i think it is...something you learn as a baby unless you're challenged in some ways or something. this post is so weird .
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>>3148 I was basically tortured until I was 13 so I missed a lot of development
